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The most important advice I ever received

May 29, 2017


Dreams are worth more than nightmares. Chase your dreams, but deal with your reality!

-By, who cares?

What’s popping beloved?

I just wanted to discuss with you the single most important piece of advice that I ever received and it was given to the whole world by Charlamagne on the Brilliant Idiots Podcast. I don’t care how you feel about the man but I think he’s an absolute boss! He advised to “pursue your dreams but deal with your reality” and he was absolutely correct.

Side note:

You don’t need to personally know someone before you can take some mental jewels from them. This man said one of the realest things ever and I’d like to expand on it.

Let’s be honest: this quote from Charlemagne is pretty self-explanatory but, what he didn’t explain is the possibility of us losing our focus because we’re so caught up with dealing with our realities that we forget to pursue our dreams. However, let me clarify a few things first before we get into this discussion.

Pursue a vision rather than a “dream”

I personally hate this whole business of “having a dream”. My problem is with the word itself: “dream”. For me, there’s a certain level of delusional impracticality and laziness attached to that word.

It just makes whatever it is that I’m chasing seems more divine, celestial and ultimately a lot more unattainable.

Having a dream makes me feel like I’m just going to walk into the “perfect” situation or I wake up one day and all my “dreams” have come true without putting in any work whatsoever.

What if you don’t have a “dream”?

Technically speaking, dreams are a series of thoughts and images that we see when we sleep- “sleep” being the operative word. During this moment, we are unconscious meaning that we don’t actually have control over our dreams. (Daydreaming is a different subject matter). We don’t go to bed thinking “hmmm…I think I’ll dream about this tonight” You don’t get to pick and choose- it just passively happens outside of our control.

I prefer the word “vision”? Vision is more active! More conscious and more aware! Vision is the ability to plan your future using your wisdom and IMAGINATION and the good Lord blessed me with some powerful imagination!

Create/forge a vision for your life

I know well within myself that I have the ability to create certain things with my mind which then happens in real time exactly as I envisioned- I don’t see this any different to me creating a few visions for the future because I know that they’re sure to come to pass.

My mind is so powerful that I don’t even get excited when I achieve certain things because I’m already familiar with the feeling.

Pursue your vision but deal with your reality

Once you’ve created your vision, the only thing left to do now is to chase that motherfucker.

You’ve already seen the destination so I can imagine that you would be planning the necessary steps needed to get there. At this point, you’re now actively engaging your brain and forcing it to work! However, all the above is pretty sweet but at the same time, you can’t just neglect your reality! Let me explain:


As a grown man today, I have the vision to own and run a series of successful enterprises and, I actually sat on my bed one faithful day and envisioned myself in a small boardroom full of older white men in corporate black suits wanting to initially purchase one of my companies for $13Million. (I don’t know why it was in dollars or why the gentlemen were white but whatever I guess- social conditioning reigns supreme right?)

Anyway, in my vision, I left the boardroom to consult my brother who told me to negotiate a better deal so I revert back to the white men in black suits that I wanted $25Million and also retain 13% controlling interest in the company. They agreed to my terms in split seconds! Granted, this was one of my visions but the reality remains that I was sat in my mama’s house, broke and very much unemployed at the time all the while I was in debt & struggling to pay my damn bills.

That was the reality I had to deal with back then.

My point is this:

You absolutely cannot ignore your reality!

Most ambitious individuals that I know today are not where they’d like to be. Not even close, although their grind never stops! (I was broke but I still managed to find a way to pay my bills and survive).

Unfortunately, most people don’t have the luxury to exert all their time, effort and resources into chasing their vision full time because they have to deal with their real everyday lives, struggles and responsibilities so they begrudgingly opt in for the 9-5 life. I personally don’t see anything wrong with this or having to work a full-time job whilst working on your side projects. As a matter of fact, I fail to understand why people complain about the 9-5 grind. Actually, let me correct myself: I fully understand why people complain about their 9-5. Apart from the challenges of the working life itself, I feel that they hate it because they don’t have a greater ambition to pursue. They now feel trapped in their own lives. These are the same ones that are already mentally defeated by age 25. Dude, don’t become this person.

To conclude:

In the pursuit of your vision, you might have to commit to other things along the way so that you can take care of your responsibilities (mainly financial).

However, the problem begins the moment you get distracted and neglect your vision which tends to happen to a lot of people once they find themselves in a comfortable new position. They become complacent and forget about their priorities!

If for example, you let your 9-5 job dominate your life to an extent where you’re no longer able to work on your vision, you’re screwed!

I say that to say this:

I’m well aware that you guys are pretty clued up so I’m not going to patronise you. I’m not here to argue that it’s easy to balance a full-time job or other commitments and work on your side projects. trust me: I know firsthand how difficult it can be!

I’m just trying to make you actively aware so that you don’t fall into the trap of “justifying” your inactions because all they are at the end of the day are excuses.

Remember that even if all you can do is spend 30 minutes of your day working towards your goal(s), that’s a massive accomplishment and you should be proud.

A goal of mine for 2017 is to be notorious for my work ethic and it’s my job to police myself. I have a full-time job and I work crazy hours but at the same time, I will always create the time to write for at least 15 minutes every single day.

I hope this post resonates well with you.

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Timi Awolola