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Why do I avoid getting into arguments?

June 15, 2017


Opinions aren’t fact. Now that’s a damn fact!


What’s popping beloved?

Can I share something with you real quick? I despise debating and getting into pointless arguments in particular, the ones that lack any real substance. Oh my days. I can’t stand it!

I genuinely believe that some people relish the thought of just going back and forth, for the sake of validation, ego, and just sheer stupidity. For example: ‘Social Justice Warriors’. These mfers are now quite prominent in our timeline today but why do some of these people think that they’re making a difference by “debating” and getting into redundant arguments with anyone that disagree with their POV?

Truth be told, I actually wouldn’t have an issue with them if they actually solved some real issues rather than forwarding their own agendas. By in large, what these Social Justice Warriors care about the most is receiving brownie points for being “woke” or socially conscious, but obviously, they would never admit to such a thing. They’re just idiots that don’t offer real solutions and quite frankly, engaging them is just a waste of energy because “you’re wrong” and they’re “right!”.

Word to the wise is enough

The next time you get into a “debate” or argument with, ask yourself this: who really won and what was the prize?

Remember this: If you’re arguing with a fool, people cannot tell the difference watching the both of you from afar. #BeSafeTho.

However, don’t get it twisted: Anyone can get it!

I really don’t care about arguing or going back and forth with ANYONE. There is only one person’s opinion of me that I truly care about on this earth but other than his, I legitimately do not care what anyone else thinks of me.

This is within a social context of course. ALWAYS care about the opinions of others when it comes to business/commerce. (Bro tip: if you’re providing a service: a good way to improve that service is via feedbacks from your customers/consumers but you probably already know this)

“Damn son…Who pissed you off…?!”

I personally don’t make it a matter of routine to argue with people.

We all have a finite amount of energy during the day and I guard mine jealously.

I’m naturally an introvert so you can imagine why I hate getting into discussions that will burn my precious energy especially when I can foresee that I will just get pissed off in the end.

If you ever catch me involved in any back and forth with anyone either in person or online, it’s probably to troll them for entertainment & marketing purposes #banter.

Random Fun Fact: there is a difference between an argument and a conversation, that’s full of substance.

I say all that to say this:

I prefer to make statements: I’ll call you a “basic bitch” if you’re behaving like one.

I don’t go out of my way to intentionally “offend” people but I’m the type to say what’s on my mind and leave it there. I can’t afford to care about people’s opinions because I really don’t give a damn. At the end of the day, opinions are simply that: “opinions”. They’re not necessarily facts.

Never allow a judgement that’s not based on facts or knowledge shake up your internal world to an extent where you start doubting yourself! And if the “opinions” about you are accurate (only you can decide this), then they’re no longer opinions, but rather facts.

Remember this: be careful what you choose to accept as “facts” about yourself! Hitler commissioned the mass murder of the Jewish people. That’s a fact. You will die without oxygen. Another fact. “You’re overweight”- well only the scale can confirm the accuracy of that but “you’re a failure and you won’t do anything worthy with your life” is a blatant lie!

Once again: be VERY careful what you choose to accept as “facts” about yourself!

I’m hardly a flip-flopper but I understand that my opinions are not always correct but they’re still my damn opinion. As such, I reserve the right to express them.

However, similarly to Charlamagne, I also enjoy absorbing new information that challenges what I think I know or believe about a topic, therefore, when I’m presented with new information that disproves what I think I know, I’m not ashamed to change my views. At the end of the day, we are all growing and evolving (I hope).

It’s folly to know the truth and still continue in ignorance, wouldn’t you agree?

This was such a random blog post but it is what it is.

Anyway, I’d like you to watch the clip below so that you can understand why I rate Charlamagne so much.

Don’t forget where you found this article and remember to like, comment and share it! #BeSafeTho



Timi Awolola